5 tips to enjoy your weekend

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As a mother of a handful of children, my weekends are more important to me than the weekdays.  Why? Because the children are home with me.  I need them to have constructive, safe and of course happy activities to do in their time, so they don’t obstruct my time.

How I plan my weekends:

I assess the children’s week at school. If there is anything of interest they did and enjoyed, I would consider incorporating (copying) that activity for them again in the weekend.

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Consult with the husband.  Is there anything on his “to-do” list (aside from myself) that he’s interested in doing with the family.

Always, make sure if I’m planning an event or outing for my weekend, the funds, necessities for the planning is ready to go.

Keep a notebook close by.  You never know what ideas or tips will pop up on you. Keeping a journal note, is my personal preference over mental notes.

The weekends are only 2 days.  Even if it’s only one thing you plan to do, even if it’s just chilling out and watching a season on Netflix, planning and preparing for it, is the treat for yourself in the end.  You deserve it.


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Finally! Lake life begins

I don’t consider myself a spoiled b!tch, but this spring weather is really pulling at my patient strings.  Today was the first day, I could walk outside WITHOUT A SWEATER!

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There was a day May 31 2010 and every year after that until 2016 when there was HEAT.  My sons birthday was always an outside event, but after 2016, his birthday celebrations started to take place inside.

I decided to launch my “lake life” visits today and it was a great site to see.  There were water toys and boats out.  I loved it.

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Last year, I was starting my loc journey and my hair wasn’t even close to being defined or loc’d up.  I’m excited to slip and dip them in the water this year.

I washed my hair today, and it’s freshly oiled with olive oil, which is the sparkle you see around my peripheral.

Locs, dresses and tank tops here I come!


Spring fashion haul walmart

I’m starting to believe these algorithms are a true entity among us in this new digital age.

Since the beginning of spring, I’ve been on the hunt for a lady bird or cherry blouse, or item of clothing of some sort.

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I’ve been browsing all the websites, they either didn’t ship to my hometown or didn’t come in my size.

Until today.  As I was running my daily errands, I came across the closest thing I could get to my dream item.

A medium length shirt dress in colour pink caught my attention.  At a quick glance, I thought it was a cherry print, but instead they were small red flowers.

Although I love the colour pink.  I don’t make it a preference in my wardrobe.  But this dress had me sprung from the first glance.

Before I missed a bargain buy, I grabbed the dress and left as it was the last in my size on the shelf.  Why are the big girl sizes always the first to go?

snapchat-3724033035178283454763185922.jpgThere are button fasteners from the top to the bottom.  The last button is approx. 2″ from the hem .  I sampled the dress without leggings to see whether the dress was “office friendly”, but in my opinion a pair of leggings would complete the look for the office.

The regular price was $24.95, I grabbed this little number at $15.  You see why I couldn’t resist bringing it home with me?

I find prints like this extremely soft and feminine.  With my “un-manipulated” freeform locks, it’s a refreshing concept on this type of lifestyle.  It breaks down the stigma attached to those of us who wear dreadlocks in our lifestyle.

 

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Are dreadlocks sexy?


Before you get the answer to this question, I’m going to answer this question with a question.  Do you consider yourself “sexy”?

I learned in my experience so far in life, anything I have a question for  in life, needs to start with myself first.  So, putting myself in the question. “Wendy, do you find yourself sexy?”. My answer would be “Yes, I sure do”.  I know this because I know my SELF.  From very a teenager and observing my surroundings, media influences in my days (Janet Jackson, Madonna).  I took from them what I thought would fit with who I thought I was, and left the rest behind.  My sexy was created through trial an error of my own experiments, nobody else.pizap (1)

When I started my own loc journey, I asked myself NOT if my husband would think my locs were sexy, because he already knows who and what his wife is all about.  Instead I found myself wondering if the locs when matured would take up too much room over the pillows we shared or if they’ll seem imposing on our marriage.  They are after all, an extension of who I am and I have a pretty BIG personality already.

So, getting back to the question at hand, whether or not if dreadlocks are sexy.  Dreadlocks are your hair.  They are an extension of who you are.  They will exhibit your SELF.  If you’re presence defines sexy.  You have no problem.  Never lean on a man to make you be what you want to be.  A man wants you because of what you are.  He can help bring your dim lights to turn on, but you control the fuse box.

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Freeform dreadlocks UN-manipulated, are an elevated level of beauty.  When I see a woman with her hair like mine, respect for her choice to wear her hair in this form I respect instantly.  A man will do the same for you.  Know You FIRST, before you get to knowing any body else.

 


5 Questions everyone has when starting a freeform loc journey

When you make the ultimate decision to go “freeform” with your hair and loc it, is a major step by itself.  Son congratulate yourself for making such an awesome choice with your life.

When I started my loc journey, one question I kept asking myself occurred daily.  The reason, I think why I kept asking myself this question is because no one else’s answer settled me concerns.

V-Neck  Decorative Lace  Printed Shift DressI’m going to share 5 questions, many brothers and sista’s experience in their own personal walk when it comes to freeform loc journey.  These questions are NOT in any order of significance.

Question 1: How long will my hair take to mature?

This question relates to the production cycle of the hair budding at the bottom and twisting up into it’s matted state.

Question 2: How long does the “ugly stage” last?

There is a saying in the Afro-Caribbean community called the “ugly stage”.  Your hair is in the middle or premature state.  Messy everywhere and openings for women especially to become insecure about their physical appearance.  Since starting my own personal journey, I’ve come to realise, the “ugly stage” is composed from your own thoughts or thoughts of others being put upon you.  It’s NOT REAL!  Your thoughts make you feel uncomfortable in settings that are foreign to your lifestyle.  Just ignore them.


Question 3: Will I still look attractive?

Your evolution to a freeform dreadlock lifestyle, will automatically elevate you to another level of attraction, you’re not familiar with.

Question 4: Am I allowed to dread even though I’m not a Rastafarian?

Know this, the MANY of the Rastafarian community are descendants of the Nazarite Israelites that embrace the sacred vow of not cutting their hair, along with other requirements.  Letting your hair dread, doesn’t mean you are a part of that equation.

Question 5: Do I stop washing my hair??

HELL NO!!!!!  Would you stop washing any part of your body for any reason ???  I’m going to cut this answer right here.

So guys! there you go.  If any of these questions pop into your head, REMEMBER!!! SUPPORT for your journey is out there.  I’m here too!  Message me anytime.

@herloxx on Instagram.  Bless

1 year loc’d freeform hair no manipulation

Accomplishing any success is a great feeling.  It doesn’t matter who’s interested or not.  I’m officially 1 year into my loc journey.  As a promise to myself and those subscribed to my youtube channel, I said I would reveal what the back of my hair looks like.

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I’ll admit, my faith and trust in the process did allow a tiny space for doubt to enter and make me second guess making the video, in-case things looked worse than I imagined.

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After overcoming that tiny “fear demon” I made the video.

As I watched the video (Voice over audio included) I processed the decision to let my hair just “be this way”.

I still can’t confirm whether it’s connected to my vow to YAH to be true in all of my being during my life walk.  To prove my heart and soul are in complete trust of Him to guide me through my walk of truth and righteousness.  For some reason, I can’t let go of my connection to the Nazarites who made a sacred vow to YAH and their hair growth process was a part of the deal.


I guess time will tell.  For the time being, I sit back and watch the process develop and continue to share my journey with you.

Click the image to view my big reveal. Please check it out and let me know what you think of my progress.

Update “Google says” Dreadlock hair wash challenge for afro hair

I started a “Google says” hair wash challenge at the beginning of May.

When I googled how to maintain Afro-caribbean Dreadlock hair, Google said hair washing should be 2-3 times a week with conditioner and once a month with shampoo.

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There was no way, I was going to tackle my hair 3 times a week washing. Plus my hair was not giving me the pass to 3 washes a week, so I went with 2 washes  3-4 days apart.

To be honest with you, now that I’m 1 week shy of the end of May, I can say my hair, doesn’t require 2 washes a week.

At the point, my hair feels over worked and the spirit feels forced to do something against its will.


Im glad I went for the challenge to see for myself, not everything your reason online about your personal needs and benefits are beneficial for you.

Don’t copy everything out there, because if its not for you, your results will upset you and get you discouraged. Do your own research on topics Google says “how to” on.

Does olive oil like dreadlocks?

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Can you use olive oil in your hair?? Of course you can!!

How do I know this, well my first affirmation of this fact I discovered in the bible.  The olive oil was used in the bowls full to keep their hair of the men and women moist.

After testing the waters myself,  I found my hair welcomed the application with open arms.  My hair felt moist on a different level.  My scalp was soft.

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How I apply olive oil to my hair:

I only apply the oil straight from the bottle onto my scalp.

Using both hands, I rub my scalp in a massaging motion all over.

 

I don’t apply the oil to the locks themselves.  I noticed the oil magically finds its way to the ends of my locks naturally by the end of the day or by the next day.


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I only moisten my hair twice a week, every 3-4 days.  I can go a whole week with just one application, but I like the softness my scalp has when I do my nightly scalp massages.

I’m excited to have discovered this natural solution to maintaining my new hair journey.  I love it even more to know my descendants from the bible used the exact same methods on their own hair.


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Washing hair day

Washing hair that’s matted together has a few cons, well more cons than pros when comparing natural flowing hair.

I gave my hair a conditioner only wash today. I do this twice a week. I love the scent of this new conditioner (mint scent).

I’m applying shampoo only once a month.

As I was completing my wash, I was thinking about how the back of my hair looks. I can’t look from a rear view right now, as I made a promise to my you tube subs, when I reach 100 subs, I will share what my hair looks like from behind.

The only person that gets the privilege right now is my husband (hmm hmmm) and the children.

I was actually surprised to see the length, given I have experienced a lot of shrinkage in my hair since I started the locking process.